“Or, I could be the better person…” – My daughter, Amanda Wright
These were the seven words my daughter said to me, words that immediately stopped the conversation and left all of the adults in the car in a shameful silence – literally!!! Not a single one of us had a good response to these prophetic words.
My daughter’s comments came following advice we parents had given her about ‘getting even’ and ‘setting things straight’. You see, my daughter had been the victim of hurtful behavior from one of her friends. The type of behavior and comments you know aren’t true. Meant only to make someone else look better or to manipulate the situation. It was the behavior that so often occurs with teenagers.
As parents, it’s easy to get caught up in the motion of a situation like this. Your first reaction is to come to the side of your child – to defend them – to set things straight. “Do the same thing to her,” we suggested. “Let her know how it feels.”
“Or, I could be the better person…”, she replied.
If only we had the wisdom of a child. The perspective they can bring to such a situation. The ability to put aside our feelings and draw upon the principles and values we were taught at such a young age. I marvel at the clarity in which they can often bring to such events. Continue reading